`Dear God, I bring to you . . .? and name everything you bring to God: `my shame, my anger, my frustration.? And then you just say, `You?re in charge, take it.? It feels so good. Every time I did that . . . it felt so good to say, `I?m not in charge,? because why do I have to be in charge of everything? I?m imperfect, and there?s no shame in that.?