I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.
We’ve learned over the years that listening and understanding people’s needs from their perspective is not only more respectful—it’s also more effective.
Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It's a relationship between equals. Only when we know our own darkness well can we be present with the darkness of others. Compassion becomes real when we recognize our shared humanity.
As Pema Chodron writes in http://amzn.to/2sg65eR: Rejoicing in ordinary things is not sentimental or trite. It actually takes guts. Each time we drop our complaints and allow everyday good fortune to inspire us, we enter the warrior’s world. We can do this even at the most difficult moments. Everything we see, hear, taste, and smell has the power to strengthen and uplift us. From this point of view, it becomes possible to open your heart to what can feel, at first, like a vulnerability. To let your natural capacity for empathy connect you to both the pain and joy of others, and to trust that this capacity is a blessing, not a liability.
Could our minds and our hearts be big enough just to hang out in that space where we’re not entirely certain about who’s right and who’s wrong? Could we have no agenda when we walk into a room with another person, not know what to say, not make that person wrong or right? Could we see, hear, feel other people as they really are? It is powerful to practice this way, because we’ll find ourselves continually rushing around to try to feel secure again—to make ourselves or them either right or wrong. But true communication can happen only in that open space.
In a World Without Forgiveness evil begets evil, harm generates harm, and there is no way short of exhaustion or forgetfulness of breaking the sequence. Forgiveness breaks the chain. ...It represents a decision not to do what instinct and passion urge us to do. It answers hate with a refusal to hate, animosity with generosity. Few more daring ideas have ever entered the human situation.
Let the Good in me connect with the good in others, until the world is transformed through the compelling power of love.
A healthy social life is found only when, in the mirror of each soul, the whole community finds its reflection, and when, in the whole community, the virtue of each one is living.
The highest form of wisdom is kindness.
I can only give to you what I have already given to myself. I can only understand the world as much as I understand myself.
I trust and feel at home around the ones who: - are not afraid to be vulnerable with themselves - live confidently in their power and gentleness - try their best to live without harming others - are serious about their healing and growth - have the humility to say 'I don't know