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Now, I hate to burst anyone’s bubble, but did you know
that the Proverbs 31 woman was not a real person? She was
one of those fantasy moms we talked about earlier. I know, I
know—next thing you know I’ll be telling you that June
Cleaver was just an actress playing a role, that Mayberry
wasn’t real, and that Maria doesn’t actually live on Sesame
Street. I am sorry to dash your dreams.
But actually, as much as I like to joke about the
Proverbs 31 woman being the figment of an optimistic
mother-in-law’s imagination, that passage really wasn’t
written to guilt women into acting a certain way. If you read
through Proverbs, you’ll see that wisdom is often
personified as a woman. Proverbs 31 is the capstone of the
book, and the Proverbs 31 woman is a literary
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personification of a wise life well lived, fleshing out the
concepts taught within the entire book.
Do you know what that means? It means that Proverbs
31 is about making wise choices that promote healthy
human flourishing, whatever that looks like in our context,
and that it was written to guide and instruct men as well as
women! But only women seem to obsess over it and use it as
a checklist. We’ve been taught that’s what godly
womanhood looks like, in those Better Homes and Garden
Bible studies. And sometimes it does! There’s a lot of
wisdom in those verses.
But godly womanhood can’t be measured by externals.
It’s like 1 Corinthians 13 says. We could do everything right,
check everything off our Proverbs 31 checklist, and still have
hard, unloving hearts that are far from God. Or, we could fail
to live up to the standards, stereotypes, and expectations
that this world—and even the church—sets for women, and
still be godly women, passionately pursuing our calling as
image-bearers.
Godly womanhood is not about being conformed to the
image of the Proverbs 31 woman. It’s about being
conformed to the image of Christ.