When I started loving myself I understood that I’m always and at any given opportunity in the right place at the right time. And I understood that all that happens is right – from then on I could be calm. Today I know: It’s called TRUST. When I started to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody When I tried to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time is not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I know: It’s called LETTING GO When I started loving myself I could recognize that emotional pain and grief are just warnings for me to not live against my own truth. Today I know: It’s called AUTHENTICALLY BEING. When I started loving myself I stopped longing for another life and could see that everything around me was a request to grow. Today I know: It’s called MATURITY. When I started loving myself I stopped depriving myself of my free time and stopped sketching further magnificent projects for the future. Today I only do what’s fun and joy for me, what I love and what makes my heart laugh, in my own way and in my tempo. Today I know: it’s called HONESTY. When I started loving myself I escaped from all what wasn’t healthy for me, from dishes, people, things, situations and from everything pulling me down and away from myself. In the beginning I called it the “healthy egoism”, but today I know: it’s called SELF-LOVE. When I started loving myself I stopped wanting to be always right thus I’ve been less wrong. Today I’ve recognized: it’s called HUMBLENESS. When I started loving myself I refused to live further in the past and worry about my future. Now I live only at this moment where EVERYTHING takes place, like this I live every day and I call it CONSCIOUSNESS. When I started loving myself I recognized, that my thinking can make me miserable and sick. When I requested for my heart forces, my mind got an important partner. Today I call this connection HEART WISDOM. We do not need to fear further discussions, conflicts and problems with ourselves and others since even stars sometimes bang on each other and create new worlds. Today I know: THIS IS LIFE!
Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.
You can search the whole tenfold universe and not find a single being more worthy of love and compassion than the one seated here—yourself.
I will not die an unlived life. I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire. I choose to inhabit my days, to allow my living to open me, to make me less afraid, more accessible, to loosen my heart until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise. I choose to risk my significance; to live so that which came to me as seed goes to the next as blossom and that which came to me as blossom, goes on as fruit.
The time will come when, with elation you will greet yourself arriving at your own door, in your own mirror and each will smile at the other's welcome, and say, sit here. Eat. You will love again the stranger who was your self. Give wine. Give bread. Give back your heart to itself, to the stranger who has loved you all your life, whom you ignored for another, who knows you by heart. Take down the love letters from the bookshelf, the photographs, the desperate notes, peel your own image from the mirror. Sit. Feast on your life.
Do not doubt your own basic goodness. In spite of all confusion and fear, you are born with a heart that knows what is just, loving, and beautiful.
When you notice destructive, unhealthy thoughts, pause & feel their pain. Take a breath; hold your pain with kindness. Then inwardly recite loving-kindness phrases, imagining each one is a seed of compassion you are planting into your mind. MAY I LOVE MYSELF JUST AS IAM. MAY I SENSE MY WORTHINESS. MAY I LIVE WITH DIGNITY. MAY I HOLD MYSELF IN COMPASSION.
Throw the Doors Wide Open Throw the doors wide open and step into the enormous palace inside of you. Breathe. Breathe into every space. Feel every sensation. The joyful warmth of shared love and the vast emptiness that sometimes echoes around our hearts. The excited clarity of inspired thought as well as that clustered maze inside our heads. That deep spread of satisfaction at the end of a good day and the tight knots that curl into the pit of our belly. Breathe. It’s your body. This is the field of your experience. This your true home. This is where you belong.
In loving ourselves, we love the world. For just as fire, rock, and water are all made up of molecules, everything, including you and me, is connected by a small piece of the beginning. Yet, how do we love ourselves? It is as difficult at times as seeing the back of your head. It can be as elusive as it is necessary. I have tried and tripped many times. And I can only say that loving yourself is like feeding a clear bird that no one else can see. You must be still and offer your palmful of secrets like delicate seed. As she eats your secrets, no longer secret, she glows and you lighten, and her voice, which only you can hear, is your voice bereft of plans. And the light through her body will bathe you till you wonder why the gems in your palm were ever fisted. Others will think you crazed to wait on something no one sees. But the clear bird only wants to feed and fly and sing. She only wants light in her belly. And once in a great while, if someone loves you enough, they might see her rise from the nest beneath your fear. In this way, I've learned that loving yourself requires a courage unlike any other. It requires us to believe in and stay loyal to something no one else can see that keeps us in the world—our own self-worth. All the great moments of conception—the birth of mountains, of trees, of fish, of prophets, and the truth of relationships that last—all begin where no one can see, and it is our job not to extinguish what is so beautifully begun. For once full of light, everything is safely on its way—not pain-free, but unencumbered—and the air beneath your wings is the same air that trills in my throat, and the empty benches in snow are as much a part of us as the empty figures who slouch on them in spring. When we believe in what no one else can see, we find we are each other. And all moments of living, no matter how difficult, come back into some central point where self and world are one, where light pours in and out at once. And once there, I realize—make real before me—that this moment, whatever it might be, is a fine moment to live and a fine moment to die.
I've learned that loving yourself requires a courage unlike any other. It requires us to believe in and stay loyal to something no one else can see that keeps us in the world – our own self-worth.
The best chance to be whole is to love whatever gets in the way until it ceases to be an obstacle.
Loving kindness towards ourselves doesn't mean getting rid of anything. It means we can still be crazy after all these years. We can still be angry after all these years. We can still be timid or jealous or full of feelings of unworthiness. The point is not to try to throw ourselves away and become something better. It's about befriending who we are already.
She Who Reconciles She who reconciles the ill-matched threads of her life, and weaves them gratefully into a single cloth— it’s she who drives the loudmouths from the hall and clears it for a different celebration where the one guest is you. In the softness of evening it’s you she receives. You are the partner of her loneliness, the unspeaking center of her monologues. With each disclosure you encompass more and she stretches beyond what limits her, to hold you.
The universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself, everything that you want you already are.
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
Remember, the entrance door to the sanctuary is inside you.
Attention is the most basic form of love. By paying attention we let ourselves be touched by life, and our hearts naturally become more open and engaged.
To be aware of your body is the beginning of self-love. When the mind goes home to the body, the mind and body are established in the here and now.
To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don't need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.
When I understand my suffering, I love myself, and I know how not to keep nourishing the suffering, how to transform the suffering. I get lighter, I become more compassionate, and with that kind of freedom and compassion, I feel liberated.
I can only give to you what I have already given to myself. I can only understand the world as much as I understand myself.
I held my fear by the hand, honored its existence, and thanked it for teaching me that happiness exists beyond the boundaries it creates.
They asked her, ""What does loving yourself mean?"" She answered, ""It means to uncover and release whatever keeps you from true happiness. To love, honor, and accept every single part of you, especially those that are kept in the dark. It means to continually observe yourself with the utmost honesty and without judgment. Loving yourself means striving to reach new heights of self-understanding so as to cultivate the wisdom that inner peace requires.â€
Her rebirth was stunning – she lifted herself up from the depths of despair, grasped her dreams, embedded them in her heart, and walked forward into a future that only her will and vision could control.
Self love begins with acceptance, a complete acceptance of the history that our mind and body carry, but it does not stop there. Self love is an energy we use for our own personal evolution, it is a meeting and balance of two critically important ideas, one where we love who we currently are and another where we begin our transformation into the ideal version of ourselves. Though these ideas may seem contradictory they are both required for our ultimate success. Without acceptance, our transformation into our happier and freer selves would be highly difficult. Why? Because It is much harder to change and let go of what we hate. Self love is personal evolution in action
Self-love is the nourishment that gives us the clarity and strength to love others well.
When she started letting go, her vision became clearer. The present felt more manageable and the future began to look open and full of bright possibilities. As she shed the tense energy of the past, her power and creativity returned. With a revitalized excitement, she focused on building a new life in which joy and freedom were abundant.