I’ve learned that I cannot control another’s behavior and, also, that I am not responsible for anyone else’s behaviors.
You absolutely need to apologize for poor behavior. You may not need to apologize for poor thoughts.
To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless.
Leadership is intentional influence. It is a systematic process of influencing the behavior of others in order to achieve important results. If at the end of your “leadership” people aren’t behaving differently, then you didn’t lead.
When you want to address someone’s behavior, your first task is to diagnose. You must try to determine whether their current behavior represents a motivation problem, an ability problem, or a mix of the two.
When your motives change, your behavior follows naturally.
Nothing is so much calculated to lead people to forsake sin as to take them by the hand and watch over them with tenderness.
There is an attitudinal and behavioral bridge that we need to build in order for us to draw closer to Him, and thus be ready to return Home—cum laude or summa cum laude—to receive of His loving fullness. We must want to do this more than we want to do anything else. Otherwise, even if we void wickedness, our journey will end in the suburbs, somewhere short of the City of God.
In behavioral economics, this phenomenon is known as status quo bias. People are generally predisposed to favor sticking with their current circumstances, whatever they may be, instead of taking a risk and bushwhacking their way toward a different life.
We’re biased toward upholding the status quo, but it’s a bias that hurts us.
Our sisters do not wish to be indulged or to be treated condescendingly; they desire to be respected and revered as our sisters and our equals. I mention [this], my brethren, not because the doctrines or teachings of the Church regarding women are in any doubt, but because in some situations our behavior is of doubtful quality.
A good rule of thumb in decision making is, whenever you cannot decide what you should do, choose the action that represents a change, rather than continuing the status quo.
A symbolic action is any action you take where other people who are watching will walk away having concluded what you care about, what your priorities are, and even what you value. Now for those of you who have leadership positions, what percentage of your actions would you guess are symbolic? Did you guess 100%? If you did, you would be correct; it’s everything you do, or don’t do.
Generally speaking, we respond to others' way of being toward us rather than to their behavior.
What would be a problem is to insist that others need to change while being unwilling to consider how we ourselves might need to change too.
The obvious contributing factor to success is a person's actions or behaviors - the things one chooses to do.
Approaches that ignore the importance of mindset fail to account for not only why people are choosing to behave as they do but also why people respond as they do to others.
The immediate influence of behavior is always more effective than that of words
The immediate influence of behavior is always more effective than that of words.
I’ve learned that I cannot control another’s behavior and, also, that I am not responsible for anyone else’s behaviors.