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The Fool's Choice....is basically this: when we face a crucial conversation (when the stakes are high, our emotions are in play, and thee are differences of opinion), we tend to devolve to binary thinking. We assume we can either be honest or respectful. We can be candid or kind. We can stand up for ourselves or roll over....
For decades, I have watched as people have made the Fool's Choice and, most commonly, chosen silence. We have all tolerated bad behavior, bad ideas, and bad decisions be have felt pressured to choose respect or conflict avoidance over honesty. Sadly, when we've done so, we've failed to recognize that we don't actually have to make that choice. More often than not, we literally can have it both ways.
Here are some ideas about how to reject the Fool's Choice and have it both ways.
1. Make it safe - for them....
2. Assume poor skill, not poor motive....
3. Seek others' perspective....
4. Invest in relationship-building and connection.Share
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