“From the beginning of time, the forces of evil have tried to get the forces of good to lose control of their emotions. If we lose emotional control, then we are easily manipulated by the evil force. The evil forces would have us selfishly destroy all our most precious relationships by losing control of our emotions...”
Calmness is more than having a quiet voice. It is confidence and assurance inside that a situation can be changed and that a heart can be touched. This assurance comes by having the spirit of love present and by knowing the skills necessary to handle difficult problems.
Learning how to touch and influence the heart of another person takes practice. It also requires possessing calmness ourselves.
Learning the power of calmness was one of the greatest lessons I learned. From the beginning of time, the forces of evil have tried to get the forces of good to lose control of their emotions. If we lose emotional control, then we are easily manipulated by the evil force. The evil forces would have us selfishly destroy all our most precious relationships by losing control of our emotions...Years ago, when I had troubled foster teens living with me I made a conscious choice. I decided that behaviors were not people, they were behaviors. I knew I had to love the person with or without the behavior, so I could not allow the behavior to manipulate my emotions or my relationship.
There is a difference between doing what needs to be done and doing everything, and the person who knows how to see what needs to be done most is often the most productive in the end. This doesn’t mean living in panic, chaos or stress. It doesn’t even mean constantly living in an urgent mindset. It means acknowledging what or who needs your attention next. That’s all.
Maybe the question isn’t how much should be on our plate but how many plates we should actually have. Depending on how well we have mastered the art of spinning plates will likely determine how many plates we can have. Practicing at prioritizing and taking deliberate action creates increased capacity.
Deliberate is one of my favorite words. It means living on purpose.
Deliberate parents make family standards for their family to follow. A clearly defined family standard eliminates many conflicts before they even start.
When parents deliberately plan their standards and teach their children skills for good communication and proper respect, then their lives become simple. They avoid the emotional complexity of tantrums and the need to constantly repair damaged relationships.
Yes, there are only victims in CRT. Even the people who are labeled as ‘oppressors’ are victims. They are forced to self-loath in order to be socially acceptable. And the ‘oppressed’ are forever victims too because of their in-born disadvantages. And, if a person chooses to better their situation, that would hurt them in the end because then they would have to hate themselves as an ‘oppressor’ and practice self-loathing. However, according to CRT theology, most oppressive situations cannot be recovered from because they are biological. If our children are taught CRT mindset in schools and through the media, then each person will have unchangeable, socially perceived value and all people will end up at war to see who is the most ‘oppressed.’
So, if we take the social and political views of others personally, and damage our relationships with them due to their differing beliefs, then it seems logical to deduce that we are not seeing people as people any longer, but as issues, instigators, and antagonizers to our emotions instead. This is ideological objectification, meaning that we are degrading people to mere ideas, instead of valuing them as full people who are entitled to ideas and lives that they choose to have.
If our society continues to ideologically objectify every citizen based upon their political, social, religious, and moral views, then we will be contributing to war.
Just a decade ago, people respected differing views as part of the way humans have always been. But today, a different view is seen as an attack that requires a counter attack. Each view shared by an ideological warrior supposedly creates more victims and aggressors. Attacks, victims, aggressors, and warriors are all war terms. Wars are happening in families, in schools, in the workplace, online, in the media, and at holiday parties.
Real culture necessitates a plan.
Two-thirds of our parenting efforts should be spent on ourselves. We’re the key to changing the home environment and training hearts to bond and love one another. Parents who have soft hearts like this have a power that’s rare. It’s the power of calmness.
Equity and equality sound similar, but they are complete opposites. When a society has equality, that means that they have the same freedoms and dignity. If a society embraces equity, that means that no one’s effort is rewarded, and that freedoms are taken from some people and given to others, and that personal dignity is disregarded. Equity promotes laziness and entitlement, while equality acknowledges each person’s personal journey, their value, and their successes. Equality promotes hard work and taking personal responsibility.
If a child can problem solve, they can self-govern.
Principles of good parenting haven’t changed over the years. Rather, parents just think these principles have changed because some of the “No” answers are about things like cell phones and computer games, instead of about playtime and an extra cookie.
What is Critical Race Theory? It’s a theory that suggests that some people are mean and oppressive to society because of biology and personal choices, and that others are destined to be victims forever because of their biology and personal choices. Victims are not required to be responsible for their choices or biology, but oppressors are. This teaching leads to judgments of others by declaring certain words, questions, and behaviors as ‘aggressions’ or ‘micro-aggressions.’ CRT’s constant need for judgment has already proven to create depression and social division with stories like Chris’s and reports of increased hostility on college campuses in recent years. Social/relationship conflict ultimately promotes poor health, broken relationships, and aggressive social behavior.
Life can’t be in balance or much of the greatness in the world wouldn’t happen. However, spirituality should be in balance. In fact, if a person is spiritually balanced then they can make it through all the uncertain twists and turns in life.
Everyone’s anxiety is different, but I have found that it isn’t productive to worry about the causes of the anxiety. At one point in everyone’s anxious moment there is a choice. We just have to learn how to identify that moment and choose calmness and security instead of anxiety.
Individuals who don’t learn to notice and control their anxious feelings become ruled by them. To be free from anxiety, individuals can recognize their feelings and learn to calm themselves down so they are more able to address the problem.
The functioning family starts with marriage and children. We shouldn’t mock at or make others afraid of the very institution that will bring us happiness and strengthen society exponentially: the family. It’s just not appropriate.
“From the beginning of time, the forces of evil have tried to get the forces of good to lose control of their emotions. If we lose emotional control, then we are easily manipulated by the evil force. The evil forces would have us selfishly destroy all our most precious relationships by losing control of our emotions...”